” Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down. ” ~ Roy T. Bennett.
For the past couple of years struggling with anxiety I’ve felt like a monster. I’m pretty sure there are times I’m really not fun to be around, I’m a mess, stressed, full of constant worry. Everyday is a battle with my own mind. Sometimes just to get out of bed in the morning and put on a brave face can be tough as hell.
Never have I ever been confident. I wish that I could be this big five foot bundle of joy and happiness. Instead I spend a lot of my time drowning in self doubt. I will admit that in the past year or so I have got better. There are certain things in my life I have overcome and feel much happier about. I’m starting to live my life the way I want to. I’m learning to take care of myself, to love myself ~ although this is definitely proving to be a challenge.
“It’s hard to feel desire when you don’t feel desirable” ~ Christine Feehan.
Despite all of those things you may think is terribly wrong with you, love yourself.
Before anything else. Before you lose weight. Before you get fit. Before you get your dream job or your dream life. You need to love yourself first. If you tell yourself “I’ll be happy with myself once I’m a size 8” or “I will love myself once someone else loves me” you will never be content. Once you achieve these goals, you will only find more things you need to work on before you’re happy. It only becomes a vicious cycle of you never being truly satisfied with yourself, body or life.
Think of your best friend. Why do you love them? I’m pretty sure it’s because of their kindness, sense of humour and how great they are to be around. Not because of their thigh gap or muscles. People love you for who you are. Not for what you look like.
Being a young girl in society today, I know how bitchy and mean girls can be. Especially when in a group. I hold my hands up to the few who like other girls pictures, smile as they walk past, and just in general being friendly.
I know that nobody is perfect. And literally, no one. Every single person has flaws. Everyone has down days. Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody cries. All of these things do not define who you are. What matters is how you respond to them. And the actions you take to become a better person. We are all perfectly imperfect.
Anyway, I just wanted to give my opinion on some self-love. I’m still finding all of this extremely challenging. I have good days, and bad days. But that’s ok. I’m still growing and learning every day. I hope this post has helped in some way, please let me know your thoughts!